Who sees it is entirely up to you, and you can change your mind at any point.
← Questions families askThe page has its own address under eternallyloved.co.uk, made from the name. It is short enough to read out over the telephone and short enough to put on a card.
Most families send it by text or on WhatsApp, because most people open it on a phone. You can put it in the newspaper notice, on the order of service, or in one email to everybody at once. There is no wrong way, and there is no limit on how many people have it.
Anyone you give the address to, and in practice nobody else. Memorial pages are marked so that search engines do not list them, so nobody finds one by searching for a name. You can allow it, in the editor, under "Being found by name": it is off unless you turn it on, and turning it off again does not remove what a search engine has already listed. We refuse the AI companies' crawlers by name whichever you choose; that is a request rather than a lock, and the ones that respect it stay away.
Said plainly, because it matters: the page is not secret the way a password is secret, and it is not findable the way an ordinary website is findable. Somebody who has the address can pass it on, which is usually exactly what you want at a funeral.
You get an email when a message or a photograph arrives. If that is too much on top of everything else, reply to one and say so, and we will stop.
Your own private link is what lets you change the page and see the replies. If a funeral director started the page for you, they hold a link too.
Open your link and you will find "Who has access to this page's replies and messages". Everyone who can see them is listed there, and you can end anyone's access at any time. Ending one stops that link working straight away, and changes nothing on the memorial page itself.
Give your own link only to somebody you would be content to have change the page: it is the key, not just a way in. If you want a brother or a daughter to help with it, that is exactly what it is for.
The address does not change and the page stays where it is. Replies close the day after the funeral, the message wall stays open, and people go on finding the page at the same address for as long as it is up. Many families send it round again on an anniversary.
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